How To Love:::: LilTunechi

If I wasn't already a fan of this dude, LilTunechi (Lil Wayne) I'd definitely would be a fan after hearing this song...How To Love. This song pulled at my heart strings the first time I heard it. For several reasons, (1) It was *bleep* free, I didn't hear alot of explicit lyrics so I didn't have to turn down the volume around my kids. (2) It sounded so sincere, like he was singing the lyrics from his heart. I love songs with passion and depth. (3) I could identify with the lyrics. Not that I've have issues loving a man because I am currently VERY in love and have been for almost 2 decades with hubz *swoon*. I consider myself to be very fortunate in that area. SO GRATEFUL. My issue is more so with women. I have always had trust issues with women. I will meet a super cool gal and almost immediately retreat and/or find a way to become distant and withdrawn. I seem to have difficulty letting my guard down and giving my heart in friendships. I have had the same circle of friends for so long which are predominately family members(my besties are my cousin and sister).

I don't know what angle Weezy F. Baby was coming from when he wrote this song but I'm sure we can all relate in some way or another. Maybe from low self esteem, a broken heart and/or issues trusting men or women...or maybe just not knowing how to love. I am choosing not to let betrayal and disappointments deter me from loving and building. Everyone is different, not every person you meet is out to break you down. Encouraging you all, including myself to learn how to love...AGAIN.

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Curvy comes in all shapes and sizes! Whether your size is single or in double digits, embrace your curves!

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(pic taken 4/5 yrs. ago)
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Fantasia's new video!! I'm Doin' Me...

I'm so happy for Fantasia!! She looks great and I'm glad she is bouncing back..

Phatty or Fatty??

A year or so ago I was encouraged by a few pals to open up a blog...I have blogged for many years...primarily as an outlet or a place to dump all my thoughts and interests. I've journaled on Blackplanet, Xanga, Myspace, Chocolate Brides, Facebook and most recently here, on Blogger. Trying to find a title was a challenge... I thought of the majority of my friends and what audience I wanted to target. Most of my family can be described as thick, CHUNKY, chubby, BIG-BONED, fat, Healthy and the smallers ones would be considered curvy. I've NEVER been skinny, even when I was smaller I was still categorized as being a "THICK" chick...

On many of the social networking sites I would browse profiles and see women that I would consider small or thin referring to themselves as thick or curvy. They ranged from sizes 6-10 with a little booty and boobage but they called themselves thick.

Some would see me out and about and consider me morbidly obese because they would never want to be my size in a million years. I can imagine some women would rather drink clorox on ice than to be as big as me.

So the debate is; Should plus size women refer to themselves as curvy when society sees us as FAT??? Hmmm?? Both sides of the spectrum could argue this topic back and forth all day, whether or not these little video chicks with boobs and a pinch of badonk are curvy... and/or.. Are my fellow plus size divas PHAT or FAT?

After its all said and done, I am who I say I am. You are whoever you say you are...just like that chick who is a 12/14 but always claims to be a size 4/6...let her be whoever she wants to be. She may get the side eye and a twisted lip topped with a YEAH RIGHT but who really cares? Is there a blue ribbon and a trophy at the end of the day?? I think we are all guilty of sizing people up LITERALLY...I'm so over it...I can care less what you see when you look in the mirror...I'm all for positive self image regardless what the scale says. I'm all about promoting high self esteem and working your assets! Find that part of you that is your strength and bedazzle the crud out of it!! *2 snaps in a Z formation! HMPH!


Feels good to finally get this rant out of my system..DO YOU ladies..stop worrying about the next chick...last time I checked none of my naysayers were around when it was time to pay my bills so they can kick rocks in some flip flops!! Work what you have ladies, whether you have a little or a LOT...DO YOU!

So if you are pretty in the face but thick in the waist, SO BE IT! If you are small, big gut, flat butt or down with the itty bitty *itty committee, WERK IT!! I encourage you all to be healthy, eat right and be active but in the meanwhile while you continue to carry around those thunda thighs...BE FIERCE!! Folk gonna talk about you anyways, so you might as well love yourself anyhow!! *drops mic and switches off stage*

No matter what....

My weight changes all the time. UP and down...I may loc up my hair or I might even chop it all off again. Whether I dress like a hippie or a classy business woman, I AM FABULOUS. Happiness is a inside job. Nothing or no one should determine your worth. Love yourself, regardless of the twists and turns of life. I AM FABULOUS and so are YOU!!!