Riddle Me This????!?!??! Random Rant!

Hello!!! *waving* (side eye)

A fellow blogger and I were venting earlier about the highs and lows of blogging. I had very few lows to vent about because for me blogging is a hobby so I enjoy it. For her its like a thorn in her side because she has about 100, 000 more followers than I do. For me blogging is therapy and ways to share info with friends and fam. For her she is constantly wondering what content is relevant and appropriate for her huge audience of followers.

One thing we both have in common is, dare I say it...LURKERS!!! Oh Em Gee!! For those of you who don't know what a lurker is...lemme dumb it down for you. Its the people who frequent your blog, profile, online journal or whatever simply just to read what you say and BOUNCE!! They don't click "like" or "recommend" they just read your every word and look at your content from the sidelines and roll out. Some lurkers frequent your blog more often than those who actually comment.

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User participation often more or less follows a 90-9-1 rule:
90% of users are lurkers (i.e., read or observe, but don't contribute).
9% of users contribute from time to time, but other priorities dominate their time.
1% of users participate a lot and account for most contributions: it can seem as if they don't have lives because they often post just minutes after whatever event they're commenting on occurs.

http://ariwriter.com/commenter-or-lurker-which-blog-participant-are-you/

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One of my homies was bragging to the crew how much she loved my blog but I had to stop her to say, "you read my blog???" she was like...yeah girl, I follow you on Google Reader!! I was like oh heck naw, NOT YOU TOO! To me Google Reader is just a fancy way of lurking. Half the time the writer of the blog has no idea that you are even following them. After giving her blues about not supporting my "movement" she now follows me on twitter!! LOL!! She is probably lurking right now so, "Hey K.W"!!!

We are all guilty of "browsing" the net...I am a reformed lurker, to me lurking was wack because I wanted to add my two cents in the comments! If the website is interesting enough for me to read on a daily basis why not just "JOIN" or "FOLLOW"???


If I am all up on your site you are gonna know I've been there. I won't comment on every blog post or entry because I can't always co-sign or relate but I will contribute here and there. If you don't see me pop up every once in a while then I'm not lurking!! Being nosey 24/7- 365 is not a good look!


I know certain people are shy and don't have much to say...I get that, I'm not talking to the introverted people. I have shy anti-social moments myself but C'Mon Son!! Come out of hiding...I added a hit counter a month ago and so far almost 9,000 hits so I know yall are looking and watching!! I have some who write me on michelle@curvyecocentric.com to add comments and I thank you for showing love!!


A year or so ago one of my favorite bloggers shut down her blog because she felt like she was talking to herself...I really miss her contribution to the world wide web...she was so positive and refreshing but like so many before her she stopped blogging because she didn't feel the support from the community of people who "followed" her.


Bloggers do alot of research and preparation to offer us information, insight and their perspectives. At least you can "like" something every once in a while. SHeeSH!!


For those of you who offer a comment or a retweet I THANK YOU SO MUCH!! Your feedback is priceless. I love blogging so you can join me for the ride if you wish..but yall need to stop lurking so much and come out of hiding. If you are reading this then you are on this site for a reason. I don't bite!! LOL!


Support your local blog TODAY!! <--- super cheesey, I know!! LOL!

No matter what....

My weight changes all the time. UP and down...I may loc up my hair or I might even chop it all off again. Whether I dress like a hippie or a classy business woman, I AM FABULOUS. Happiness is a inside job. Nothing or no one should determine your worth. Love yourself, regardless of the twists and turns of life. I AM FABULOUS and so are YOU!!!

Big decisions...

You ever have something bothering you? You try to ignore it, get over it and forget it...and still you can't hide behind smiles anymore? I had to let go of something that was not good for me. I already feel better. Its amazing how letting go can be the answer to rid yourself of all the stress and confusion! *I've been waiting to exhale and now I can* Moving forward to a healthier life, and continuing my pursuit to happiness! If you have someone or something in your life that is sucking the life and joy out of you...REMOVE IT! I've never once regretted letting something go that was not in my best interest... When you KNOW better you DO better. Listen to that gut feeling and voice inside of you...Life is too short! Surrounding myself around all things positive, honest, loving, sincere, loyal, and true!

REAL TALK::: Follow your heart...

Frank Morrison picture "Proud Divas"

If they talk about other people around you, they will also talk to other people about you. That is a fact.





I was blown away at a co-worker of mine who talked about someone who I thought was really her friend, like a dog. I couldn't believe how bad she was talking about her friend! I'm like yall just came back from a road trip and now you are calling her out of her name!! I was taken back a while ago, I've been giving her the side eye for a minute because she seems so phony. It really bothered me because she always has something negative to say about somebody. Something about her is different, I can't put my finger on it. She brings a different vibe to the room that I can't explain. I don't consider her a bestie because I only have two of those. My cousin BFF/ and my sister. We can chop it up and occasionally crack a joke but I never gave her my complete trust...I have decided to dissolve the ties. My gut is telling me to run. One thing about me is that when I am through with you its over! I will forgive you, pray for you but I will delete you like a Magic Eraser and NEVER look back! You better ask somebody!! Humph!! You will think everything is all good and you'll look up and my number has changed.



Ladies and gents don't subject yourself and your other "friends" to toxic people. Check them out and listen to your heart. Good people don't talk bad about their friends and then you look up and they are shopping and having lunch together. Quality not Quanity. I've had long friendships for a reason. I'm very loyal and will do anything for my friends. I take the bonds and memories we share very seriously. I expect the same in return. I don't have any actual factuals that suggest that I have been the topic of discussion...but when I get that feeling, I'm usually right.

Be good to those you love and cherish...or...you may look up and they will be gone.