How To Love:::: LilTunechi

If I wasn't already a fan of this dude, LilTunechi (Lil Wayne) I'd definitely would be a fan after hearing this song...How To Love. This song pulled at my heart strings the first time I heard it. For several reasons, (1) It was *bleep* free, I didn't hear alot of explicit lyrics so I didn't have to turn down the volume around my kids. (2) It sounded so sincere, like he was singing the lyrics from his heart. I love songs with passion and depth. (3) I could identify with the lyrics. Not that I've have issues loving a man because I am currently VERY in love and have been for almost 2 decades with hubz *swoon*. I consider myself to be very fortunate in that area. SO GRATEFUL. My issue is more so with women. I have always had trust issues with women. I will meet a super cool gal and almost immediately retreat and/or find a way to become distant and withdrawn. I seem to have difficulty letting my guard down and giving my heart in friendships. I have had the same circle of friends for so long which are predominately family members(my besties are my cousin and sister).

I don't know what angle Weezy F. Baby was coming from when he wrote this song but I'm sure we can all relate in some way or another. Maybe from low self esteem, a broken heart and/or issues trusting men or women...or maybe just not knowing how to love. I am choosing not to let betrayal and disappointments deter me from loving and building. Everyone is different, not every person you meet is out to break you down. Encouraging you all, including myself to learn how to love...AGAIN.

Family...Friend.... Sisterhood!!!!!

Yo! These chicks right here....I don't even have the words, ya'll!

The one on the left is my first cousin/BFF...the one on the right shares a Mom and a Dad with me. That is my bratty kid sister.... Epitome of Sisterhood.

BFFz

To confirm how goofy we are, this Saturday at a women's conference my sister decided to take a pic of my shoes and then texted this pic to me!! LOL! Lawdhammercy! I was rolling!!! Good thing we were taking an intermission otherwise I would have gotten escorted to the nearest exit for laughing so hard!!

We have taken similar poses in the 80's, 90's and now in 2011...Our bond is sealed tight.


At the Farmer's Market/Flea Market...acting up!! LOL!

Oh Mi Goodness, we have rubbed off on my child. BFF and my oldest daughter doing what we do best, act silly. lol

Most of you probably don't even recognize me...Around my peeps I am a free bird. Certified Nut. LOL!

My Sissy loading up on fruits and veggies...

My babies with the infamous, "Auntie".... she spoils my kiddos rotten!!

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These two have held me down, stood in the gap, prayed for me, stood up for me, loved me more than I've loved my self at times, and most importantly they understand my breed of crazy! Isn't it grand to have people in your corner who "get you"?? I mean they understand me even in silence, they can read me like a book when I get outta line too... They both have birthdays this month so I wanted to show them love. Let the celebrations commence! Shout out to my Chi-town homie, Kellan (Kellz) Happy Birthday luv...you my girl 100 Grand!! Enjoy your day today, girl!!

(Even though you girls aren't Libras, life goes on. Pisces is the next best thing! LOL! ) *wink*

REAL TALK::: Follow your heart...

Frank Morrison picture "Proud Divas"

If they talk about other people around you, they will also talk to other people about you. That is a fact.





I was blown away at a co-worker of mine who talked about someone who I thought was really her friend, like a dog. I couldn't believe how bad she was talking about her friend! I'm like yall just came back from a road trip and now you are calling her out of her name!! I was taken back a while ago, I've been giving her the side eye for a minute because she seems so phony. It really bothered me because she always has something negative to say about somebody. Something about her is different, I can't put my finger on it. She brings a different vibe to the room that I can't explain. I don't consider her a bestie because I only have two of those. My cousin BFF/ and my sister. We can chop it up and occasionally crack a joke but I never gave her my complete trust...I have decided to dissolve the ties. My gut is telling me to run. One thing about me is that when I am through with you its over! I will forgive you, pray for you but I will delete you like a Magic Eraser and NEVER look back! You better ask somebody!! Humph!! You will think everything is all good and you'll look up and my number has changed.



Ladies and gents don't subject yourself and your other "friends" to toxic people. Check them out and listen to your heart. Good people don't talk bad about their friends and then you look up and they are shopping and having lunch together. Quality not Quanity. I've had long friendships for a reason. I'm very loyal and will do anything for my friends. I take the bonds and memories we share very seriously. I expect the same in return. I don't have any actual factuals that suggest that I have been the topic of discussion...but when I get that feeling, I'm usually right.

Be good to those you love and cherish...or...you may look up and they will be gone.