A year or so ago I was encouraged by a few pals to open up a blog...I have blogged for many years...primarily as an outlet or a place to dump all my thoughts and interests. I've journaled on Blackplanet, Xanga, Myspace, Chocolate Brides, Facebook and most recently here, on Blogger. Trying to find a title was a challenge... I thought of the majority of my friends and what audience I wanted to target. Most of my family can be described as thick, CHUNKY, chubby, BIG-BONED, fat, Healthy and the smallers ones would be considered curvy. I've NEVER been skinny, even when I was smaller I was still categorized as being a "THICK" chick...
On many of the social networking sites I would browse profiles and see women that I would consider small or thin referring to themselves as thick or curvy. They ranged from sizes 6-10 with a little booty and boobage but they called themselves thick. Some would see me out and about and consider me morbidly obese because they would never want to be my size in a million years. I can imagine some women would rather drink clorox on ice than to be as big as me.
So the debate is; Should plus size women refer to themselves as curvy when society sees us as FAT??? Hmmm?? Both sides of the spectrum could argue this topic back and forth all day, whether or not these little video chicks with boobs and a pinch of badonk are curvy... and/or.. Are my fellow plus size divas PHAT or FAT?
After its all said and done, I am who I say I am. You are whoever you say you are...just like that chick who is a 12/14 but always claims to be a size 4/6...let her be whoever she wants to be. She may get the side eye and a twisted lip topped with a YEAH RIGHT but who really cares? Is there a blue ribbon and a trophy at the end of the day?? I think we are all guilty of sizing people up LITERALLY...I'm so over it...I can care less what you see when you look in the mirror...I'm all for positive self image regardless what the scale says. I'm all about promoting high self esteem and working your assets! Find that part of you that is your strength and bedazzle the crud out of it!! *2 snaps in a Z formation! HMPH!
Feels good to finally get this rant out of my system..DO YOU ladies..stop worrying about the next chick...last time I checked none of my naysayers were around when it was time to pay my bills so they can kick rocks in some flip flops!! Work what you have ladies, whether you have a little or a LOT...DO YOU!
So if you are pretty in the face but thick in the waist, SO BE IT! If you are small, big gut, flat butt or down with the itty bitty *itty committee, WERK IT!! I encourage you all to be healthy, eat right and be active but in the meanwhile while you continue to carry around those thunda thighs...BE FIERCE!! Folk gonna talk about you anyways, so you might as well love yourself anyhow!! *drops mic and switches off stage*
This was my favorite post of yours yet!!!
ReplyDelete"just like that chick who is a 12/14 but always claims to be a size 4/6...let her be whoever she wants to be." I agree!!!!!!!
And just as you stated, at the end of the day, it's what you see and how you feel when you look in the mirror. Who cares about the opinions of others - they're gonna talk about you like a dog if you're skinny, they're gonna talk about you like a dog if you're fat, they're gonna talk about you if you're in between. You've got your husband and children who adore you, and a family who loves you... and really, those are the only people whose opinions matters.
And for the record, I agree as well...the term "thick" is so relative. I've seen it used with size 8/10 (*raising hand*) and all along the spectrum. Once again, i think if you perceive yourself as that, it's what you are.
Sorry I was so all over the place. Great blog post!
Thank you soooo much Yakini! I was hesitant to blog on this topic because its a touchy subject! I'm glad we agree, at the end of the day its how we perceive ourselves that matters! Hugs!
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